| Orientation to Biblical Counseling
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| Lesson 5 - Dealing with Self
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- Gen.2:7
; Phil.3:8
- God formed man out of the dust of the
ground, and by God's breath, man received consciousness, a capacity
to think, and an awareness of his environment and surroundings.
Man's very being depends solely upon God. Man without God is nothing.
- Gen.1:26-28
- God created mankind, Adam and Eve, as one entity.
Mankind is mated to God and through the imaging process to be
the revelators of God's love to the world. God blessed them, and
endued them with power to be prosperous in all areas of living.
All that was required was for man to voluntarily stay mated and
submitted to God's authority, His word.
- Eph.5:21
- Both husband and wife, as separate entities, are
subject to the Lord first, then to one another. By this act of
obedience, recognizing God as Creator and Sustainer, they would
become one flesh as originally planned.
- Gen.3:1-6
- Man tested to choose to be dependent upon God
or to be independent and become their own gods. The desire that
was put into them to please God, now turned to lust to please
themselves. Becoming gods they looked to themselves for resources
to handle life, to find within themselves wisdom, strength, and
ability to understand and control life in all its manifestations.
By this choice, as they changed from self-loving-others to self-loving-self,
fear became their constant companion.
- Gen.3:7-10
- Reverential fear and awe of God and His magnificence
changed to fear of punishment and a concern for the survival of
the self. All man had to do was look to God, obey His word, and
God would take care of everything else. Separated from God man
has to look to himself for security, God no longer there to provide.
Man now looks horizontally to find acceptance and approval by
performing and impressing others how great he is, by controlling
others, by seeking power over others by wealth, by position. Always
seeking to find the meaning of life within himself when the meaning
of life can only be found by manifesting the glory of God in his
behavior.
- Lu.9:23-24
- By and through the Cross of Christ, we are enabled
to resume the original relationship with God before the fall.
By the cross , we are freed from the self-loving-self and become
the self-loving-others, to be a blessing by expressing the glory
of God in our behavior to others.
- Eph.4:22-24
- We are all conditioned by life's experiences.
We are the sum of all that we encountered in life. Our culture,
our environs, our circumstances in life have impacted our lives
and has affected our reactions and our coping mechanisms accentuating
the need to protect the self in competition with others.
The answer to this wordly, fleshly self is to study our union
with Jesus Christ, and this by the daily putting-off of the corrupted
self and the putting-on of the new self by the renewing of the
mind.
- Gal.5:16-26
; Prov.28:13
; Jere.17:9
; Rom.6:12-13
- You will
face constant temptations to self centeredness that lead to thoughts,
speech, and actions that are devastating to the body of Christ
and your own walk with the Lord. Those sins that characterized
your life apart from Christ must be confessed and repented of
if you are to mature as a child of God.
- Eph.1:3-14
; Matt.7:12
- Man's problems is that he pays too
much attention to himself ,not too little. We already know how
we want others to treat us. Thus, we are commanded to treat others
the same way with the focus on the other and not self. God has
given to us all we need or want. There is nothing we should seek
for ourselves but to exercise who and what we are in Christ Jesus.
- Rom.8:14-17
; l Cor.1:26-31
; Matt.5:16
- A proper view of self
comes from an understanding of who you are in Christ, that God
is actively involved in your life, has chosen you to be a testimony
of His power to the world, and gives you a purpose for living
by conforming you to the image of His Son.
- Gen.4:7
; John 14:21
, 15:10-11; 2 Cor.4:7-10
, 16-17
; Matt.6:33
- Your contentment in all circumstances of life is dependent on
your obedient responses to God in your thoughts, speech, and actions.
By obeying the Lord in your daily walk, this demonstrates the
Lordship of God over your life. The sense of value, of worthiness,
of self-esteem comes by first seeking His Kingdom and His righteousness.
- Rom.6:3-4
,13
,14
; Col.3:5-11
; l Pet.2:11-12
- Envy, jealousy,
coveteousness, and greed reveal a self-focus that questions God's
work and provision in your life. These sins must be put-off out
of your commitment to live for Jesus Christ.
- 2 Tim.3:2-7
; 2 Pet.2:1-3
- In latter days, we will be lovers
of self, led on by various impulses, always learning and never
able to come to the knowledge of the truth. Being a hearer only,
you will be deluded.
- Col.1:10
; l John 3:8
; Phil.2:12-13
- It is daily walking in
Christ, committing our will to please God and not ourselves, by
putting-off and putting-on, by being fruitful, increasing in the
knowledge of God, strengthened in His power, these changes in
lifestyle give evidence that we are a child of God. As such, the
potential of Christ resides within you always ready to be blessing,
destroying the works of the devil, and reigning in life through
righteousness.
Homework
- Memory verse :
- Lu.9:23-24
, and meditate on this verse.
- Devotions :
- BSAF on Eph.4:26-27
,29
.
- Put-off / Put-on :
- Review Gal.5:19-21
; Col.3:5-13
. Check out sinful thinking
patterns, make up a think and do list to change these patterns
and establish right thinking, and in consequence, right doing.
In biblically evaluating your thoughts, words, or actions in any
situation, answer the following questions. You should memorize
both the questions and the references verses.
- Is this profitable? In other words, does this contribute toward
the development of godly traits or help to accomplish biblical
responsibilities in my life or in the lives of others? (1 Cor.
6:12, 10:23a)
- Does this bring me under its power or am I controlled by it
in any way? ( 1 Cor. 6:12
)
- Is this an area of spiritual weakness (a stumbling block)
in my life? ( Matt. 5:29-30
, 18:8-9
)
- Could this lead another brother in Christ to stumble? (Rom.
14:13; 1 Cor. 8:9-13
)
- Does this edify (build up) others? Is this the biblically
loving thing to do? ( Rom. 14:19
; 1 Cor. 10:23-24
)
- Does this glorify God? ( Matt. 5:16
; 1 Cor. 10:31
)